Am I a Victim?
The following questions demonstrate how an abusive partner can gain power and control in a relationship.
Using coercion and threats:
- Does your partner physically hurt you?
- Does your partner verbally abuse you?
- Does your partner threaten you, your children or your pets?
- Does your partner threaten to commit suicide?
- Do they threaten to report you to Social Services or other agencies?
Using intimidation:
- Are you afraid of your partner?
- Will they smash items or destroy your property?
- Do they make you feel afraid by their looks or gestures?
- Does your partner have sudden or controlled mood swings?
- Is your partner charming one minute and abusive the next?
Using emotional abuse:
- Does your partner blame you for his behaviour?
- Does your partner claim you are useless and they you couldn't cope without them?
- Do they put you down, make you feel bad about yourself, call you names?
- Does your partner humiliate you in front of your friends?
Isolating you:
- Do you feel isolated?
- Has your partner cut you off from your friends or family?
- Is your partner jealous and distrusting?
- Does your partner continually call and check up on you?
- Do they check your phone or computer to who you have been in contact with?
Minimizing, denying and blaming:
- Does your partner make you feel responsible or blame you for their violence?
- Do they make light of the abuse and not take your concerns seriously?
- Do they deny that abuse has taken place?
Using children:
- Do you make you feel guilty about the children?
- Do they use the children to relay messages?
- Do they use visitation as an opportunity to cause you harassment?
- Do they threaten to take your children away from you?
Economic abuse:
- Does your partner control the money?
- Do they prevent you from getting a job?
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